10/06/2013 In Real Life and Whatnot
Oct 06, 2013

So I Got Married

As most readers know, Mike and I got married last weekend. Was probably the second best day I can remember – ‘lil q’s birth will be very hard to top. Everything went really smoothly – though I’ll admit to a touch of being grumpy toward the end of getting pictures taken.

During the ceremony, just after the clerk asked ‘does anyone know why these two should not marry, speak now. . . .’ my 2 year old cousin decided to yell “NO!” to her mother. Fortunately, the clerk said a two year old’s objection doesn’t count. ‘lil q also felt the need to be more involved. Just as we started, she marched over, grabbed her diaper bag from her grandmother, marched up to where Mike and I were standing and said, ‘Papa, picky uppy.’ You’ll see in the pictures that I obliged.

The reception went extremely well. The Marriott at University of Maryland told us we were the first same sex wedding reception they’d held. Judging by how smoothly it went, it felt like they’d done hundreds.  Probably means they treated us just like every other couple. They were amazing, so I wanted to give them a bit of a shout out.

I have to say that a week later, it doesn’t really feel that much different than before – well other than the ring is a bit annoying since I’ve never worn jewelry before. To me that’s as it should be, I would have married him 15 years ago had they let us. This was special, no doubt, but it didn’t change much for us. It did, however, feel like the culmination of years of hope and work. It was nice to be able to tell the world, ‘this is who I want to spend my life with, grow old with together and raise our child’; to have the clerks at the court house not bat an eye when we applied for the license or showed up for the ceremony; [there was another gay couple getting married right after us] to have the hotel treat us like every other couple getting married; and for our families – and friends – to show up and celebrate.

I’d hope to post a few more pictures, but I don’t have the ones from the photographer back yet.  But here are a few for now.

Wedding Pictures:


  1. Shae Connor says:

    Congratulations! I hope you have many, many more happy years together. 🙂

  2. Tali Spencer says:

    You’ll get used to the ring to the point you feel naked without it. 🙂 Congratulations on your marriage!

  3. MikeL says:

    Congratulations, Andy and Mike! Great pictures!

  4. Dave K says:

    Loved the pics and am so happy for you and your family!

  5. Nephylim says:

    Congratulations darling. The photos are amazing. It looks like you had a great day and you both deserve it

  6. JayHJay says:

    Beautiful pictures! Congratulations Andy!

  7. Grace says:

    Congratulations! Such a beautiful family! I’m so happy you shared it with us. 😀 And Tali’s right, you’ll get to a point where it feels WEIRD without it.

  8. marlew92 says:

    So good to see the pics, thank you both for sharing, lil’q did outdo you both, you know that right? LOL Couldn’t wish any more for the family, I’m still waiting on the wedding gift list please. Love to all xx

    • Mark, I knew she’d outshine us both the moment she was born, so no, this isn’t a surprise. Funny thing is, I don’t want or need anything more either. Mike and ‘lil q are more than I deserve. 🙂

      As for a gift list – there never was one – we didn’t want any – and people ignored us all the same, but we never made one. Sorry.

  9. Kim Fielding says:

    Congratulations! What a happy and beautiful family!

    • Thanks Kim. I’m hoping when ‘lil q is your daughter’s ages we still look as happy as your family does. 🙂

      • Kim Fielding says:

        If you survive that long. 😉
        Actually, my husband survived a slumber party last weekend involving 14 9th grade girls plus our 10 year old. I was out of town (mwah-hah-hah!). And he was even sane when I returned.

        • I know – I am quite old, the shock of all the pending surprises might do me in 😀

          And there is no way – no way – Mike is leaving me with a house full of 14 y.o.’s. I can do it to him, but I refuse to let him do it to me. 😛

  10. skylar1776 says:

    Andy, Congratulations! I am so very happy for you and Mike. Wonderful pictures, but I have to say, ‘lil q is so photogenic! Just a suggestion, when you order pictures see if they can get some wallet size. I have two nice wallet size that I always carry of my husband and I and another one with our whole family from the wedding. Best wishes again for a lifetime of happiness!

    • SKylar – thanks for that. Fortunately now we can just go print out more pictures once we pay for the disc. But TBH, I doubt I’d have thought of it had you not suggested it. 🙂

  11. Reneava says:

    Beautiful! Congrats to you both! I wish you all the very best 🙂

  12. Shira says:

    So happy for the three of you! And yes, you’ll get used to the ring so that eventually you’ll feel naked without it. Best wishes for a long and happy rest of your lives together!

    • Thanks Shira – I feel very lucky on so many levels. And yeah, I’m sure I’ll get used to it. I mean it already helps that it’s shiny so when I need something to distract me I can just look down and go – ‘oh, shiny!’ 😀

  13. julielhayes says:

    Thanks for sharing your wedding pics, Andy, and congrats to you both! A beautiful occasion!

  14. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful pictures, Andrew! Congratulations! Best wishes for you and your your family.

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