02/18/2013 In My Writing
Feb 18, 2013

Eighteen On The Eighteenth.

Today marks eighteen years I’ve been with Mike.  Or as I sometimes joke, eighteen long years.  We often ask each other, “When we met did you think. . . . ” I can’t say when we met I ‘knew’ we’d be together this long. That’s just being honest. Eighteen months can be forever in the gay community, so eighteen years almost doesn’t have any meaning, or didn’t at the time. But I can say I hoped we’d be together this long.

Mike, 'lil q, me and Governor O'Malley

Mike, ‘lil q, me and Governor O’Malley at a Marriage Equality Rally last October

Eighteen is also the year we get married.  There is no date set yet, but it will be before the summer.  We’ve talked about getting married, but we wanted to do it where we lived. Now that Maryland has not only passed the law, but the voters of the state upheld it in a referendum, we can finally get married.  Bout time he made an honest man of me. 😉

Having fun with Daddy

I could bore you all with talk of how he’s my best friend and that we compliment each other is so many ways. Or the standard, ‘we’ve had our ups and downs’ [though being honest that would be a very short chapter on the ‘downs’], but honestly, that’s the stuff you’d expect from someone writing about their anniversary.  I mean how many people would take the time to write a blog entry saying, ‘yeah, it’s our anniversary and, well, you know, it’s kinda okay being together, but it’s not that great.’?  No one bothers to write that stuff. I suppose some might use the occasion to announce they were going to break up with their partner, but if you tuned in expecting that, wrong blog, sorry.

This sums up how I feel when I'm with 'lil q.

But since I’ve started let me just say that in eighteen years, I can honestly say I’ve never met anyone I wanted to be with other than Mike. Now we have ‘lil q and if we were a couple before, we’re a family now. It was always a dream to be parents – mine more so than his at first – and now it feels like we have a whole new life to look forward to.  In fact, as part of our ‘new’ life, we’re going to take our first ‘family’ vacation soon. That means we’re going away but not to a family or friend’s house and we’re even taking the dog.

There is a lot I could write about, but most of that is personal and the rest would be boring, sound cliche, or just be too much like everyone always says at these milestones.  So I’ll just say I’ve had eighteen wonderful years so far and as our ‘new’ life continues, I’m looking forward to all the new adventures we’re going to have.


  1. marlew92 says:

    Many, many Congrats Qtee and Mike, you are a wonderful example for me and Stuby to follow.
    Much love to all three of you :hug:

  2. Anyta says:

    So beautiful! 😀 Eighteen big cheers from me to you two! (And a kiss to the lil’ Q!)

    To another wonderful Eighteen!

  3. Kim Fielding says:

    Congratulations and happy anniversary!

  4. Chris T. Kat says:

    Congratulations all around! Awesome news. Wishing you many more happy years.

  5. Well done Andy, congratulations to you and Mike both. Gregor and I are 16 years now. Stability like I certainly never expected. And you have lil Q too. Gorgeous as per!

  6. Jo Ann says:

    Happiness always Andy to you and your little family .

  7. Congratulations! I love posts like these. It makes me feel like HEAs aren’t just for fairy tales and m/m romance novels, hehe. Hope you have a wonderful family vacay!!

    • Thanks and yeah there are times when I look at him playing with our daughter and I’m like – this feels like one of those HEA books. But then I have to change a diaper and I realize it’s real 😛

  8. Steve Wild says:

    Wishing you all the best in the next 18 years as well. I know you Andy made a lasting impression of how to do things right and one of hope when we met. I only wish to meet the other 2/3 of the family that makes you all an example for all us.


    • Steve, I’m unclear how I missed this one, but thanks. I too remember that July day when the weather was amazing and so was the company. I love that area so maybe soon we’ll bring ‘lil q with us and we’ll meet you there. 🙂

  9. K.C. says:

    That’s awesome Andy, I would say “Here’s to 18 more, but that’s not long enough!” 18 x Infinity sounds about right! Congratulations, to all 3 of you! 🙂

  10. dDaveK says:

    Got back from Myrtle Beach yesterday. I was there for a wedding of a friend I’ve known since 1953, and just caught this today.

    I think you guys are blessed and now with the little one, you don’t have to worry about excitement as she will provide plenty for years to come. Enjoy your family vacation!

    Here’s to at many, many more happy anniversaries!

    • So hard to have to go to Myrtle Beach. Hope you and the Misses had a great trip. Thanks for reading and for imparting the words of advice to keep me on an even Keel. I’m sure I’m going to need all of them and more in the not so near future. 😉

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